This Is What Democracy Looks Like

This is What Democracy Looks Like

“Show us what democracy looks like!”

“This is what democracy looks like.”

The man behind me chanted the first line while those of us around him chanted the refrain, over and over until we were hoarse.

Two weeks ago, my daughter asked if I would take her to the March for our Lives in D.C. Of course, I said yes. I was there when she took her first steps, attended her first school, played her first sports. I took her to her first concert and I wanted to be there with her for her first peaceful protest. Need I even touch on the pride I feel at having a child who feels compelled to peacefully protest? A week and a half later, she and her friends decide to do the march in Lancaster rather than schlepp to D.C. Their class president was going to be speaking (he read a poem) as were some other kids they knew and it seemed like the better place to be, here at home in our own community where what we think and say and do may actually make a difference. Despite the shift in focus to something more teen-centric, I wasn’t left behind.

“But ask Sam’s mom to go so you won’t be the only mom,” Arianna said. It wouldn’t be the first time Lisa and I tag-teamed to bring our kids somewhere so that was cool, too. This past Saturday, March 24, 2018, we joined with thousands of others in downtown Lancaster to march for something that should automatically come with a social security card here in the States — a violence-free upbringing.


It was a picture perfect early spring day, clear, calm and sunny. We gathered at Clipper Stadium on Prince Street and marched to Binn’s Park on Queen Street where we listened to speaker after speaker, many of whom were teens, give impassioned speeches about ending gun violence. We clapped, chanted, whistled, and, per usual, I got all vaklempt as I do when things of monumental importance occur in my presence. Best of all, we passed the baton to those who are willing to run with it, at least for now — our teenagers.


It is not without guidance, because what have we been doing if not guiding them all these years? It is not without support, because what have we been doing if not supporting them since they were born? It is not without knowledge for haven’t we been educating them since their first day? It is not without courage, because what parent would deliberately allow their child to enter the fray and not worry, on some level, that some insidious or explicit harm would not come to them. In fact, one of my primary reasons for going to the march was to keep my kid safe because what better time for some crazed gunman to enter the scene than a peaceful protest against gun violence on a sunny Saturday afternoon in a little town in Central Pennsylvania?


See how jaded life has made me when this is my first thought? I know I don’t only speak for myself when I say that the world has become a jangly place, like loose change falling from a hole in your pocket, hitting the ground and rolling every which way while you run, helter-skelter to catch it. Life here in the U.S. has been particularly jangly. Institutions that we have come to rely upon to keep order are themselves in disarray. Public posts that have long been the bastion of propriety, leadership, and respect have devolved past the point of confusion and are now mired in chaos and a subtle (or maybe not so subtle) form of anarchy. And there are guns, lots of them, more than when the West was settled, and while the adults among us grapple with our institutions and each other to make sense of what is happening, we find ourselves slogging through a day, a week, a year, trying to get to work and back in one piece, praying that our kids get to school and home in the same one piece.

The question on everyone’s lips yesterday was, “Why do we have to?” Why isn’t this country with all of its resources a more peaceful, verdant place. Why does our government want to arm educators, who, as one sign put it, are teachers, not sharpshooters. And why does the NRA have so much control? They used to teach Boy Scouts gun safety. Now they lobby for gun manufacturer’s and want every teacher to carry. Arianna, who has witnessed how destructive classmates with anger issues can be asked how long I thought it would be until, in that scenario, a kid disarmed his teacher and shot up the room? This is what kids think about!

Yesterday’s march was organized by and for students — and the parents were welcome to go, too. It started after the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School massacre with the students in Parkland, Florida and has grown organically. Enough is enough, they said, banding together to make their voices heard not just in Florida, but across the nation. Every day, more teens join. Their voices may shake, but they’re going to speak their minds anyway. And while it’s not the first time teens have protested, it’s the first time I can recall their parents saying, “You know what? You’re right.”

Where we have failed, they will succeed. It feels like a great tsunami of hope is heading our way, and our kids are pulling us parents along with them, parents who weren’t apathetic, but who’ve been sandwiched too long between two demanding generations that still needed them — aging parents and their own growing children — parents who had very little time left to do much of anything that mattered to them.

It’s okay parents. You’ve taught your children well. It’s time to let these impassioned kids maybe not take over, but definitely set the pace. Social change starts with a change of heart. The mind then follows. Why not let the children lead for a while?

This is what democracy looks like.

pjlazos 3.25.18

About Pam Lazos

writer, blogger, environmentally hopeful
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27 Responses to This Is What Democracy Looks Like

  1. A great post! I so much hope for a change to the better in your country and that children can grow up without fear and drills. Living in Europe the whole issue of wearing guns is somewhat far from us. I keep hoping that this will happen to you too one day. It’s madness and politicians and lobbyists need to start rethinking! Wonderful that you and your family belong to those who try to change their minds! 😘

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  2. That’s so great. I’m so proud of our teens!

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  3. An inspiring post that brought tears to my eyes, Pam. Watching our children (and for me, grandchildren) take stands for social justice is, as you so powerfully describe, both rewarding and cause for concern about their safety. And kudos for you to standing with them.

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  4. I am so proud of these kids!! They give me hope! Some how we have to help them keep the ball rolling. It was an amazing day in Lancaster and across the country. I am so glad I went.
    PS Photo would have been fine…no worries.

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  5. paulandruss says:

    Truly powerful and Inspiring….The idea of ordinary people owning guns is so alien and frightening to us in the UK

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  6. Lydia Isales says:

    Bravo Pam, you capture so many feelings and issues: the vicissitudes of being a parent, the hope the youngsters give us and I really would like to know the answer to one of the questions you pose, how DID the NRA get so much control? Lydia

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  7. Susan Scott says:

    Great post Pam! I saw some of the rallies on TV and was struck by the impassioned pleas by the youth taking part in peaceful demonstrations. They ARE our future and deserve every support and to know that their elders are behind them every step of the way. Great pic of the two of you! Protest and Protect say I … 🙂

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    • pjlazos says:

      Thanks, Susan! We have to start somewhere, and this is about as important a place as any!😘


    • pjlazos says:

      Also, I don’t know what happens between our blogs but when I am in yours and try to comment I often get a reply that says there was an error, like something blocks it. It only happens when I’m on your blog, my the other way around. Maybe check your settings?🤪😘

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  8. Sister, you rock. What a great mam you are that you’ve brought up such good girls there. Hat’s off to you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  9. Ken Dowell says:

    My wife and son went to the march in Morristown and I attended the one in Allentown where I was staying for the weekend. Unlike many I’ve always kind of liked teenagers but now…but now I think they’re our inspiration and our saviors.

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  10. hilarymb says:

    Hi PJ – what a great post … and obviously a proud mother, who led by example, yet is allowing her child to progress in their own way – and what better way … I do hope these youngster prevail and lead their world and our world to a better, more understanding place … excellent read – Hilary

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