As We Grieve

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October 21, 2015, marks the date for the book release of my dear friend, Jan Groft’s book, Artichokes and City Chicken, Reflections on Faith, Grief, and My Mother’s Italian Cooking (available on Amazon).  This is Groft’s third book examining the topics of death and dying, a triptych that Groft perhaps didn’t even realize she was writing until she was finished.  Her first book, Riding the Dog: My Father’s Journey Home — A Memoir, and As We Grieve, reviewed below, preceded Artichokes.  Taken alone, or as a collective, Groft’s body of work is an important contribution to the often taboo discussion topic of death and dying.

Please stop back this week for a review of Artichokes and City Chicken and an interview with author Jan Groft.

AS WE GRIEVE

Our society is obsessed with the search for youth, and so unhinged by the notion of death that we take Herculean steps to keep people alive, sometimes using methods that defy logic. Not so many generations ago, people died at home, surrounded by their loved ones who nursed and fed and cared for them during their last days. Today people die in the hospital, surrounded by the whirl and hum of high tech gadgetry and if they’re lucky, the occasional relative. Death is no longer the spiritual experience it once was.

Read more here…

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On Legacies and Real Magic

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On Legacies and Real Magic

“What you must do to move yourself into the mental framework
for “miracle making” is to just let go.”

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Everyday Wisdom

The other night, I dreamt that my kids had all moved out of the house, taking all the joy and even the dog and cats with them. My husband and I were left with an eerie quiet and an overwhelming feeling of sadness that we couldn’t fix with music or TV or even conversation. I dread that day, the one when the last kids pulls out of the driveway, waving a fond farewell as they embark on the next phase of what we all hope will be a fabulous, dream-fulfilling life. The dread I feel is not because I don’t want them to realize their dreams, but because they were part of my fabulous dream-filled life, and now they are leaving my story in order to write their own. I know the sadness will be temporary because life goes on, and it’s not like I don’t have a glut of projects to keep me busy. It’s just that one of the sweetest periods of my life with all the chaos and kisses intertwined will have gone from participatory to memory.  Read more here…

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The Hidden Messages in Water…

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“To understand water is to understand the cosmos, the marvels of nature, and life itself.”
from: The Hidden Messages in Water

You would be hard-pressed to find a more beautifully-appointed and significant book than The Hidden Messages in Water. For years, Dr. Masaru Emoto pulls the very guts out of metaphysical concepts and literally examines them under a microscope. The result is The Hidden Messages in Water, and if the water crystals presented in this book are any indication of what happens in this hidden world, there is hope for mankind after all.

Read more here…

 

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The Tools of My People

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The Tools of my People

We all have our favorite tools, and sometimes the oldest tools are the best tools, eh? There’s a reason why the wheel is still around.  And fire. They are useful, and they are indispensable.  I still have the hammer my father sent me off to college with because, as he said, you never know when you’re going to need one. He was right, of course, and considering how many times I’ve moved over the years and had to hang and rehang pictures on my walls, my hammer was also indispensable. So now, I’d like to recognize another essential tool so lovingly employed by me in what is the season of the harvest here in Central Pennsylvania, one of my favorite appliances ever created in the history of man — the apple-peeler-corer-slicer.  read more here

 

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REBEL HEARTS

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REBEL HEARTS

You never know. Maybe I’m getting too old for this. It’s 9:45 p.m. and I’m sitting at the Wells Fargo Center in Philadelphia with my 15, and 20-year old daughters, waiting for Madonna to come on stage for her “Rebel Heart” tour — my idea. (Don’t judge. It’s no worse than all the rap music today.) They aren’t really Madge fans, but they love going to concerts and will see almost anything, especially if I’m buying, and Lord knows I’ve escorted them to more than a few concerts of their choosing so they owe me.

Dance on…

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PARK(ing) Day

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PARK(ing) Day

Tomorrow is Park(ing) Day! The first parking day was held at 1st and Mission Streets in downtown San Francisco on November 16, 2005 when Rebar, a San Francisco art and design studio set out to do something different in their urban environment. Combining their love of design and the environment, the group “rented” a two-hour parking space and converted it into a micro-park by giving the 170 square-feet of space a make-over, reclaiming the asphalt that was a necessary by-product of modern living with sod, a tree and some shade, and a park bench. Then they took a picture.

Park it here…

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Be the Change…

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Change was the uninvited dinner guest at a swanky restaurant who drank and talked excessively and then bailed on the check, a nefarious six-letter word that entered like a hurricane, scattering roofs and dreams, downing all electrical connections, and leaving ruin in its wake. She waited for Change now, hoping for a good one, dreading a drastic one, praying for a just one, knowing that she’d be forced to surrender to whatever came because in the end, that’s all anyone can do.

from A Gathering of One by P. J. Lazos

Happy Labor Day!  Today most Americans take a much-needed rest from work and other life-related stresses to gather together with family and friends and celebrate our work and  the work of our forefathers which built this nation.  Their collective effort is the back upon which America was made great and the foundation upon which we labor today.  We have them to thank for the 40-hour work week, for OSHA, and for the various health and safety standards in the work place that protect us and which translates into more time for ourselves and with our families.

I know my immigrant grandparents struggled mightily so their childen and grandchildren could enjoy a life without oppression, tyranny and civil strife, and I think of them often and thank them for their sacrifice.   Had they not made the decision to change their life’s circumstances, I may be speaking a different language today, perhaps would not have  enjoyed the benefits of a higher education that women in so many countries do not enjoy, and may be living in a place that pits brother against brother, sister against sister, or forced to practice a religion to which I do not adhere.  My gratitude for their sacrifice is practically on a cellular level.

So after the picnic, if you find yourself lying on the hammock, thinking about life and labor, and wishing you had something a little philosophical to chew on, may I suggest A Gathering of One, a List of 55 or The Quality of Light, all on sale today, all available on Amazon as a Kindle download.  Together they comprise Six Sistersa collection of these three novellas which is available in paperback.  I guarantee each story will leave you with a different view of life and all its conundrums.

Go ahead.  Grab a book before the sale is over.  The hammock awaits!

p.j.lazos 9.7.15

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Crying Out of One Eye

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[photo by Lucas Jackson | Reuters]

 

Crying Out of One Eye

“I will be totally pledging my allegiance to the Republican Party and the conservative principles for which it stands.”

That’s what Donald Trump said yesterday while at Trump Tower in NYC, and he meant it, really.  Trump agreed not to run as an independent if he lost the nomination and the GOP breathed a collective sigh of relief — except — really guys?

Maybe it’s my inherent distrust of the political process, of political pledges in general, or the Machiavellian way that politicians make and break alliances, but something tells me there’s a fair amount of bluff and bluster here and it’s not all going to go as planned. (And if you believe it is, I’ve got a casino to sell you in Atlantic City.)

So while we wait for events to play out, let’s see what Buddy Guy has to say about things.

 

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Lucia, Lucia

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Lucia, Lucia

In the days following WWII, women were struggling to define themselves. The war gave them a taste of what it was like to be out there, working alongside men, and earning their own money. After the war, the growing consensus among women was to stay put no matter how much men wanted to see them go back into the kitchen. In Lucia, Lucia, Adriana Trigiani exudes the postwar giddiness of hope, and the promise of a safe and settled future set against the struggles of the temporarily-liberated, independent-minded woman. The book is by turns enchanting, exciting, nostalgic and full of the classiness of the early 1950’s when women didn’t leave the house unless they were turned out in their best versions of themselves.  Read on….

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A Lesson in Buyerarchy

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[Graphic by Canadian designer Sarah Lazarovic

Under the category of Friends Doing Fabulous Things:

A Lesson in Buyerarchy
Impacting Waste Reduction at the Source
by Janet Williams

[A Buyerarchy Lesson was originally published on Sustrana’s blogsite in February 2015.]

Here’s an experience each of us has every day: we discover we “need” something. Some tangible thing in order to do our job or accomplish something. And we don’t have it. Nothing in the desk drawer. The supply closet is out. What’s our first response? Do you fill out a purchase order, drive to a store, or order it on Amazon? That’s true for so many of us, but buying something new should become a last resort, reached only after thought given to alternatives and creative options. It’s worth slowing down the purchase decision-making process and examining these other options because, let’s face it, the most “sustainable” purchase is no purchase at all!

Canadian designer Sarah Lazarovic creates wonderful drawings and charts about rampant consumerism and living with less. She recently produced a graphic she calls a “Buyerarchy of Needs.” It is a great reminder about finding alternatives to always buying something new.  Continue reading…

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