Doers or Deciders?
“Even more than we are doers, we are deciders.” Ralph Blume, The Book of Runes
When I was a kid, my parents and my dad’s best friend and his wife, decided it would be a good idea to buy a business together, a deli at the Jersey shore in Sea Isle City. The husbands would continue with their own jobs – my uncle ran a deli at home and my father was a salesman – and come down on weekends while the wives and kids ran the store during the week. We kids were ecstatic because it meant a summer at the shore and my mom and my aunt (not my real aunt, but a term of respect) were a bit giddy about being in charge. It was going to be amazing.
And then, of course, it wasn’t because no one took the time to look at how two strong-willed woman who were both proficient at raising families were going to decide how to share power. Rather than just running off and buying the place (doing), a frank discussion about who would be in charge (deciding) before things got rolling would have helped this enterprise immensely.
We are the sum total of the decisions we make. Every minute of every day we are creating ourselves and our futures. We can always do, do, do, and be met with some likely mixture of success and failure, or we can stop for a moment, take a few breaths and ponder the situation – for however long it takes – before deciding what to do next. Sometimes it takes months or even years if it’s a big change, sometimes it’s an instant, but taking the time to decide what’s best for you increases your chances of success. No matter what obstacles are in your path, your gut knows the best way forward. Let your intuition be your guide to decide.