Doers or Deciders?
“Even more than we are doers, we are deciders.” Ralph Blume, The Book of Runes
When I was a kid, my parents and my dad’s best friend and his wife, decided it would be a good idea to buy a business together, a deli at the Jersey shore in Sea Isle City. The husbands would continue with their own jobs – my uncle ran a deli at home and my father was a salesman – and come down on weekends while the wives and kids ran the store during the week. We kids were ecstatic because it meant a summer at the shore and my mom and my aunt (not my real aunt, but a term of respect) were a bit giddy about being in charge. It was going to be amazing.
And then, of course, it wasn’t because no one took the time to look at how two strong-willed woman who were both proficient at raising families were going to decide how to share power. Rather than just running off and buying the place (doing), a frank discussion about who would be in charge (deciding) before things got rolling would have helped this enterprise immensely.
We are the sum total of the decisions we make. Every minute of every day we are creating ourselves and our futures. We can always do, do, do, and be met with some likely mixture of success and failure, or we can stop for a moment, take a few breaths and ponder the situation – for however long it takes – before deciding what to do next. Sometimes it takes months or even years if it’s a big change, sometimes it’s an instant, but taking the time to decide what’s best for you increases your chances of success. No matter what obstacles are in your path, your gut knows the best way forward. Let your intuition be your guide to decide.
Green Life Blue Water 
Oh no! Did the business go okay for the summer? I could see how the best intentions here can all go crazy when no one considers the logistics of a plan. Heavens, how many stories go crazy when the narrative’s not thought out properly?
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, the business thrived – so they were able to sell it for a profit – but the relationships, not so much.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh. Sounds like the material benefits came with a pretty heavy price. A tough lesson to learn, but I suppose it’s one we must all experience at some point…
LikeLiked by 1 person
That it is, Jean, although we don’t know until we know, eh?😩
LikeLiked by 1 person
(sigh) Yup.
LikeLiked by 1 person
😘
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great theme!
Ronel visiting from the A-Z Challenge with Music and Writing Something Different
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Ronel!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I deliberate a lot before making a decision … I was much more impetuous when I was younger. I stew over the eventual outcome instead of just “going with my gut.” I saw this quote today and it just fits me to a “T” “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela.
LikeLike
This is an excellent essay for the letter D. What you say is very true. A lot of people need to think before they act.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Neil!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I only do after I decide. I may dither a bit, but once I decide I’m deliberate. What does that make me in this dichotomy?
LikeLiked by 1 person
A delightfully delicious human being!😘
LikeLiked by 1 person
Strange that need to do do do without taking a moment to just be and think/feel things through before making the decision – thanks Pam wise words 😀
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks 🙏 my friend. 😘
LikeLiked by 1 person
thought provoking indeed. Nice post x
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Shey. 😘
LikeLiked by 1 person